Tap Check tone before sending. It reads your draft and tells you how it's likely to land, and offers a rewrite that says the same thing without the parts that start an argument.
What it's good at
- Catching sarcasm, absolutes ("you always", "you never") and old grievances that have crept into a message about this Friday
- Keeping the request and dropping the accusation wrapped around it
- Giving you a second read at the moment it still matters — before sending, not after
What it won't do
- It won't change your message. You accept the rewrite or you don't.
- It won't tell you that you're wrong, or that your co-parent is.
- It doesn't see your co-parent's messages, and they never see that you ran it.
You're free to send the original. Many people read the suggestion, ignore it, and still soften one line — that's the whole point.